The thought of starting over with such a large journey in front of me is a bit scary, a bit frustrating, and a bit overwhelming. I recently heard a song on the radio and it has inspired me to adjust the message a bit and claim it as my mantra for the journey – “it’s just a mountain”.
When I think about it – sure my goal is huge and seems like it can’t be conquered – but I know that the desire to take one step, the commitment to repeat, and the patience to allow for time to pass as steps grow from the first one to the hundredth, thousandth and so on – will eventually see that mountain behind me (again).
There are many beliefs, and much has been written to show that planning your goals out in small, manageable chunks helps to keep the motivation going to set and reach new goals. Some folks call it “small wins”, others refer to it as a different name. The idea behind setting attainable goals is that each time you meet one – you’ll get that feeling of accomplishment, of pride, of confidence in yourself and all of these will lead you to look to the next goal with renewed passion and belief that you can succeed. I used this method when I set my goal to lose weight at the end of 2015. Had I chosen to set my first goal as “lose 200 lbs”, the likelihood that I would have struggle, became frustrated and quit would be certain. I mentioned some of the smaller goals that I had along the way to my main goal in this post about reflection. I plan to use the same method as I re-start, yet again to lose the weight. It’s tough this time around – because I achieved my goal – I made it to where I wanted to be – and then things happened in my life that caused me to question everything that I was doing, including the change to a healthier me. Here is my previous before and after.
Anxiety and depression have taken me back to a spot where I feel like all the work that I did has been undone. It was 14 months of hard work for me to lose over 200 pounds, a 7 month struggle to keep it off and once I felt I had lost the battle it was 8 months to put it back on.
Now I’m starting all over again. Many will tell me that since I’ve done it once, I can do it again. They are right – for it’s just a mountain and I’m mentally preparing myself to start the climb with my first step.
Here’s the song that inspired this post. I’m going to be keeping on high rotation through the journey and especially when I hit those tough spots!
Thanks for reading and following along with me on this new journey.
New Year’s Eve and my birthday are the two days that I loath the most throughout the year. These are the days that I become hyper-analytical and reflective about the goals I have set and the progress made toward those goals. It is rare that I spend any amount of time reflecting on the good, I seem to spend the majority of the time and energy beating myself up over the lack of progress. Some reflection is good – and doing in a way that expresses gratefulness for the path, the journey and the progress is best, whereas the way I am doing it during my times on these days in particular – is unhealthy.
While these days are a struggle for me, the passing of them eventually leaves me with an emotionally worn-down, tattered soul that feels like it just survived a battle. I knew the fight was coming, I weathered the storm, and although I’m sore – the sun has risen the next day and there is a newness to it – one that whispers, “stand up”.
The start of a new year brings with it hope that I can write down new goals and do my best to make them reality.
I know in my heart (and my mind) that it is all up to me. Success or failure are destinations that only I define, and the decision to take the journey is one that only I decide.
With this in mind, I am moving forward with keen eye toward a new goal, a passionate desire within my heart to reach it, and a back pocket full of gentle patience – because we all know I’m going to need a ton of that along the way! 🙂
I honestly feel that it is important for everyone chasing a goal to visualize and believe that the goal is attainable. There are many things that may get in the way of you accepting the achievement of the goal as it gets closer – but today I want to talk about things that I found helped me in the morning to start my day off right. Early Choices are Good Choices When I wake up in the morning – my willpower is at its peak! I find this is the best time to make decisions that help put me on the “winning” way for the day and start the momentum off on a good foot. I was inspired by this post that talks about 10 great life lessons and the first one says that if you “want to change the world, start by making your bed”. I’ll be honest, I have never been a “bed-making” person. I always felt that I had better things to do – after all – there was a day waiting to be started and breakfast waiting to be eaten! So – I decided to implement this change for myself mainly because it resonated with me. If I did want to change things about myself, perhaps the easiest way to start was by doing something small. It didn’t take long and I was getting into the habit of waking each morning, using the restroom and upon my return to my room would immediately weigh myself and then proceed to make my bed. The satisfaction of knowing that you have one thing “done” and that you’ve made a decision that is small, but positive, is a great feeling. This is a feeling that can be a nice foundation to build the rest of the day on… Daily Affirmations Telling myself that I believed in my goal each day is one of the most important ways for me to start my day off right. Each morning I restate my commitment to my goal. In my case, I would restate my commitment to the program I was on, and would tell myself that I knew that there would be good times and bad times – that this was a journey that I was in for the long haul. I would say my daily affirmations while making my bed, after weighing in. Doing this forced me to state my commitment to my goal – even if I had a bad weigh in, and as well – start my day in a positive way. I learned that I needed to not only be surrounded by a strong support system of people that believed in me and were rooting me on – but that I had to find ways to believe in myself each and every morning. In case you’re wondering – yes, I still do this same routine every day, and I commit to my new goals and to myself. This is just one of the many “Daily Choices” that I make as soon as the day starts, so that I set myself up for success. Later this week, I’m going to post audio content of my daily affirmations. Maybe you can use them or create ones of your own that you’ll listen to each morning to help get you “in the zone” for the day. Is this something you could see yourself adopting and incorporating into your morning routine?
The daily affirmation is a great way to add something new to your day and to test your level of commitment. It doesn’t take a lot of time, but if you’re able to do this for a day, commit to two days. If you hit two days in a row – commit to a week. If you are able to do it for a week, commit to keeping it up for two weeks. When you’ve done it for two weeks straight – realize that you’re halfway to having done this new, healthy commitment to yourself for a month. Let this drive you through to complete 30 days. At this point, you will have moved this action into a habit and when if you miss a day – it will feel weird.
I’ve found that once I can make the “good choice” my default choice / habit – I find it much easier to continue to make the good choice. The more good choices I make through the day – the more I desire to choose things that move me closer to my goal.